jim larson's thoughts

Odds and ends

I went A.W.O.L. from blogging again.  I sort of meant to this time--lots of changes both in the U.S. and Thailand.  Plus the Glaziers, our wonderful co-workers, were gone for 6 or 7 weeks.  I find that to keep up I'm often writing late at night (as I am now), so I thought I should let it go for a while.  

I have to say it again.  Prang rocks.  She plugs away, always up to something new.  Now she has set up a Saturday work/activity program for some kids in her neighborhood.  

What human hearts can do.  Tik is incredibly pretty and just as sweet, with an adorable baby daughter.  Her husband got into drugs and stopped caring for her, then finally got arrested.  Despite her hurt, Tik has faithfully visited him in jail.  Yet her husband's mother has kicked her out of the house, saying she doesn't help out, something we know from neighbors is not true.  She moved into Center 1 today.  

Monday we went to visit Da, Mae's 17 year-old sister.  We found her asleep in her tiny, windowless room that she rents for $20 a month.  She said she had been sleeping since 2am.  Mae and Da are opposites-white and black sheep if you will.  While 14 year-old Mae left bar work and hasn't looked back, now in school full time sponsored by The Well, Da has been stuck in strung-out mode since we've known her.  She works at a small bar for drink commissions only, averaging maybe $6/day.  She would earn more as a student at The Well, but doesn't want to give up her "freedom", as she calls her various addictions.  Tattooed and drug-like spacey, she is a pitiful sight.  But cases like this are in a way my favorite.  I want her as a daughter.

Gai called me on Saturday, his voice shaking.  "Uh oh," I thought.  "He and Miaw are having a big fight."  Not at all.  He was very upset about a couple at the Bible school where Gai and Miaw attend that have been asked to leave because of major marital problems, and he's trying his hardest to help them.  I'm so proud of Gai and Miaw I could bust.  They're organizing a team from their school to do outreach in Buriram a month from now.

Wan came back again after a 9-month absence with minimal phone contact.  It's her 4th stint at The Well.  She is unhappy, in the same codependent relationship she has been in since we met her 3 1/2 years ago.  The fact that she keeps coming back however says that she's going to make it.  When your own mom pimps you as a teenager, it takes a while to get over it.

June came back after a few months away as well.  She came out of her drug relapse in June, spent a few weeks with us and then a few more with a friend in a southern province.  While she was with us she was not in a good place at all--very negative and self-centered.  While away in the south however she began talking differently with me on the phone, and started accepting her need to repent and really deal with issues that have held her back.  She came back humble, with a commitment to really give her whole life to Jesus, without reservation, and so far she seems to be doing that, despite remaining weak areas of course.

Pear is still lost out there, not ready to come back.  She called a while back and said she would, but it turned out she was only after a little money.  She looked pretty bad.  We'll just have to keep waiting.

Si has lied, stolen and snuck off several times to visit her baby's father, only to get beat up and cursed again by him and his mom.  The last time her broke her eardrum.  She's also adorable, and is changing.  She's getting good mentoring from the older women at Center 1, knows that we love her to pieces, and we're watching her start to blossom.  And I get to be her dad.

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sallipod
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Reply #18 on : Fri January 29, 2010, 01:48:08

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John
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Bangkok Prostition on the Rise
Reply #17 on : Tue January 20, 2009, 20:39:34

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As a foreign teacher in Thailand I came here to help children to improve their education in a developing nation but of late I have become increasingly concerned at the massive increase in prostitution especially in the tourist areas of Bangkok. It has clearly been here a long time but recently I have been totally stunned to see the massive increase in the number of girls stretching themselves in desperation to get money by any means possible. I have witnessed thousands upon thousands of women in these areas, especially Nana and the Sukhumvit around the Arab quarter, desperate to survive.
Forget the nonsense about stereotypical crack whore - oh no, these are Tesco girls, salon workers, beauticians, florists, fat girls, older women, short women, tattooed girls, ladyboys; every walk of life, desperate for money for a multitude of reasons. But nearly always the same basic reason - desperate for money and usually not themselves but their family. The price that many young girls pay, especially from Isan, is extremely high; attempting to live out the dream of coming to Bangkok to earn money for a desperate family is just all too familiar. The credit crisis really hits home here at the bottom of the pile-so many poor suffer for gross negligence of governments and big business. The human suffering at the other end has to be seen to be believed.
I find it incredible just to see bars filled to overflowing with women of all ages and less farangs than ever, as many tourists have cancelled flights (although the numbers of Arabs and other non-Anglo Saxon groups seems to be stable). Definitely less money from tourism, even if sex-industry based, increases the need for money for others as many poor lose whatever income they had and inflation continues. The money flow slows and causes a knock on effect for so many others. The result is a deep psychological impact on women.
I reject their claims of "oh it's just a job, or just don't think about it too much". Especially in highly conservative Thai society, these girls must suffer greatly. Yes it MUST be shameful to them when others find out, whilst they attempt to keep everything a secret to everyone else. If you push these girls to speak truthfully, then all the emotion comes out -none of them really want to do this work, they just hope they will get enough to overcome whatever problem they have. But the real problem appears for the long term effects especially in standards of their mental health and social status. Once they get used to the cash for “big” money (big by their standards, real cheap by farang standards) they get locked into a cycle.
Now the answer; well there is no quick fix! A police crack down is definitely not the answer and is open to all forms of corruption in any developing nation. No it has to be a combination of cultural change and governmental initiatives. The reality is until the Thai government manages to stabilize its long term political instability, improves rights and standards for low class workers, increases their leadership to look for visionaries not just bureaucrats, and then looks at improved fiscal policies with long term job improvement schemes; the poor, most of all will suffer. Combined with no real welfare system, it’s fairly obvious where especially desperate women will end up. I therefore applaud the actions of outreach workers who at least aim to assist in the interim and I can only wish them the best as my heart is heavy when I see Thailand going backwards in this area and hope the suffering of these women will truly one day be less.

Jeremy
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Project Rescue
Reply #16 on : Mon May 26, 2008, 08:33:14

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Ever heard of Project Rescue? I just heard about it from a friend who went to college with the founders' daughter. Seems very similar to what servantworks is doing!

http://www.projectrescue.com/frontpage.php

Earn
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the latest postcard
Reply #15 on : Tue April 01, 2008, 13:12:41

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I'm Thai and support The well a ministry of servant works through my pray, money. I am really appreciated what you are doing for those who have no opportunity in their live and live in the darkness. I am still support your ministries. But one of my concern and it is bothering me a lot is the latest postcard which I just received couple weeks ago. I truely understand what happen in Thailand about women and teenager. Of course they are disrespect to their body, mind, soul and God by exchange it through sex for money. Can you use another word instead of Thailand's sex workers. It's sound harsh and it is hurtful. I understand that you want to wake people up through this postcard but I think there is some way else to do it.
One more thing, in the picture I see young innocent teen. I don't know who they are. They can be one of them who exchange their body with money or may not. But if it is, they already have a poor live and why you make it worse by put their picture openly!! What going to happen when they grow up? We are adult suppose to protect them, aren't we?

Jan
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Concerns
Reply #14 on : Sun March 30, 2008, 13:18:43

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Hi

My name is Jan. I'd like to thank God and you all( The Well ministry) for a wonderful work for Thai woman and children who are from dysfunctional families. I've been supporting The Well for the past 2 years, and also had a chance to visit The Well in Bangkok twice.

However, I have a concern. I have received 2 postcards of the Well Ministry. I came to my mails couple weeks ago. The first time I saw the card, I did not feel anything much. But the second time I received the same post card, there is the thought that came to my mind. I saw the picture of a mother with her two beautiful daughters. They are beautiful children. Then I read the card...Thailand sex workers! I know the intention of this postcard is good. However, I think the language is too strong. Although, it is the truth for most cases. I am concerned about these children in the picture. Unfortunately, the children have to suffer from parents' poor choices and decisions. They've already been damaged and wounded. We should try to protect them. I don't think the language is appropriate, especially when there is a picture of children on it. If they can read and understand English, I can't imagine how much damage it can do to them emotinally and psychologically.

Blessings,
Jan

alan
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God of this city...
Reply #13 on : Wed March 12, 2008, 11:32:09

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hey buddy,
have you heard the new song, "God of this city"?

see
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d61LamkXfwk&feature=related

for u-tube version of tomlin singing it...the band Bluetree from Ireland was actually in Pattaya not too long ago, and they somehow were invited to perform in a brothel...while they were doing a 2 hr. worship set, they said God gave them this song. it is POWERful!

miss ya dude,
alan

edwin
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awsome comiing
Reply #12 on : Tue March 04, 2008, 20:26:18

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im with ya Jessica!
i really wanna be involved! i hate being lazy!!!

jessica
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hopefully coming
Reply #11 on : Tue March 04, 2008, 00:46:56

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My name is Jessica Wood my sister and I are in contact with servantworks about coming to bangkok this summer. Thanks for all your hard work and the genuine way you approach people... I lay awake at night thinking about this stuff....i really think God wakes me up so I will pay attention to his prompting for me to do something or say something for those trapped in the sex trade...i want to help and not just so that I can sleep easy..but because there is no other option..and becuase i deeply loves Christ and believe he sets people free....anyways just wanted to show encouragement and introduce myself

Edwin
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Re: jim larson's thoughts
Reply #10 on : Sun January 13, 2008, 13:54:02

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for "Win"

you are more than right..... those that follow Christ's really lay themselves low for other people... that is LOVE!

*hugs*

win
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Reply #9 on : Tue January 01, 2008, 03:40:30

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i'm da random...n i'm a thai gurl,,n i saw ur friends or sumone who knows u post bout wt u did in thailand..it's gd mannn...


i donno wt to say bt i never heard bout whites do stuff for helping ppl who isn't white b4


most of them jt drop sum shit here destroy enviorment...


anyway keep it